Okay, Who's not familiar with the term douche bag/ jerk off/ pig/ tool?
If you don’t know what any of those are, well then, let me enlighten you. They are ALL the same, its an “egotist who disrespects others in an attempt to 'be cool' with the aim of generating love interests or elevating his social standing.”
Basically it’s a person who doesn’t treat another with respect regarding relationships. This refers to both sexes of course, but today I wanted to dedicate this post to my wonderful girlfriends who seem to be meeting all the wrong guys. Hopefully this will help you distinguish a good guy from a tool, or what YOU need to be doing to find a good guy. :)
Thanks to Jersey Shore, When I think of the term " Tool" I always think of the classic look.
The ideal look includes a orange looking fake tan, dyed black spiky haired boy who is usually extremely muscular and typically wearing a two sizes two small Ed Hardy/ Hollister t-shirt. These guys are known for their classic pose which includes them in a mirror flexing their steroid infused bodies. You can usually spot them from far away because their head is about the size of air balloon getting bigger and bigger by the second because of the amount of time they spend in the mirror admiring themselves.
Unfortunately, not all the guys are in the uniform listed above. Some might even look like the “good guys" and have you totally fooled. So that’s why I’m writing this article – its for those of you who don’t have “tool radar”, and might need a little help deciphering between good guys and the not so good guys.
Ladies.
I'm sure you've heard the classic excuses.
"We're breaking up because I'm going on a mission" - then he gets another girlfriend.
"It's because I really love you and I don't want to hurt you anymore" - dating someone else but still comes back to you for a hook up.
I think we’re best as just friends- but wants you as a friend with benefits.
Makes excuses for his behavior such as – “She was coming on to me first”, or “I can’t help it, I’m just a natural flirt.”
Girls, don't excuses suck? Wouldn't you rather have good open communication? 1st things 1st - if he's feeding you stupid excuses, well then, Your better off without him. You deserve to have someone own up to you and tell you the truth even if the truth does hurt.
1. Don't let him make excuses for his bad behavior. Honesty is always the way to go.
Everyone needs to know the red flags. Red flags are just poor behavior that will eventually get you in trouble. In reality, if you have a bad feeling about someone or you feel like its a sketchy situation then maybe its a red flag.
Stop justifying bad behavior. Look at what he's doing wrong, and don't let him get away with it.
"The Pig syndrome”, some of the classic red flag signals.
Loves attention
Can’t commit.
Stays connected through texting/ emails but doesn’t call.
Makes excuses for his poor behavior.
Incapable of understanding a woman’s feelings.
Doesn’t aspire to be in “long term” for the fear of missing out on something better.
Will work until he has you- then gives up because he won.
Flatters you about your looks, but doesn’t care to know about your dreams, aspirations, or goals.
He wants you to show off your assets.
Makes sure that you know that he could get any girl he wanted too, but yet is still “dating“ you.
Manipulative.
Controlling.
Plays on sympathy.
Doesn’t listen.
Is always talking about himself.
Only asks you on one “official” date, and every other outing is considered “hanging out”
Doesn’t introduce you to family or close friends.
Keeps the relationship a secret.
Can’t keep his eyes focused on you in public.
Doesn’t have the skills and courage to apologize and admit that he’s wrong.
Breaks up through text.
Treats people like inferiors.
It's disgusting, I know. So stay away. Please.. for the sake of your heart.
Last thing, and most importantly.
Ladies, men aren’t always to blame. If you are complaining about the sort of guys you are attracting, then take a step back and look at yourself. How am I behaving? What do I wear? What do I say? Do I treat others with respect?
Quite honestly, Trash attracts trash- and if you act trashy you’ll find someone who acts the same way that you do. If you dress like a skank, then you’ll attract those boys who only want a skank. If you don’t stand up for yourself and say “ No, I will not be treated that way” then you’ll always be treated poorly. My dad always says to me “You TEACH people how to treat you.” If you want the best, then you demand it. Stand up for yourself, and be courageous. Ladies, I don’t think you understand how much influence you have over men. For good or bad. So start using it for good, and changing how men view you. That’s it.
"I’m not single and I’m not taken. I’m simply on reserve for the one who deserves my heart because they say good things take time."
Hope this helps. xoxo. Amanda
